So... failure. We all love that
The thing is, failure is a part of life. It is a fact. I will fail. I will not always succeed. That’s just life. That’s called being human.
We know this - but we don’t believe it. Instead, when we fail, we beat ourselves up.
Why did I say that? That was so stupid of me!
How could I have missed that?! I’m not normal!
I can’t believe I just did that! What was I thinking?
If we could only learn to be more gentle with ourselves, more accepting of our failures, more compassionate to the human beings we are! There is nothing wrong with being human. Making mistakes is a part of us.
The only way to learn from our mistakes is to look at them honestly and the only way we can be honest with ourselves is with compassion and love.
EFT always holds us so gently as we face our issues.
Even though I just accidentally deleted so many hours of work… I’m still okay. Because human beings make mistakes.
Even though I just totally messed up that conversation and now I’ve ruined it all… I love myself anyway. Because I'm not meant to always get it right.
Even though I lost so much money over those bad purchases… I accept myself exactly how I am. Because there’s nothing wrong with me for being limited.
We jump so quickly from I did the wrong thing to there’s something wrong with me. But if we could have the bravery to look at it honestly, we would find genuine mistakes from a beautiful, flawed, perfectly imperfect human being whom Hashem created with love.
We've just had a month of chagim. It's meant to be a beautiful month, and many of us will have had precious, connected moments. But many of us will look back at this month with a feeling of failure. I didn't daven well enough on Rosh Hashanah. I've already lost my temper so many times. What kind of home is this for my children with all this fighting?
Failures are intrinsic to the human experience. Let's look at them with more honesty and compassion.
