Can you say this to yourself?
It takes bravery. But it's worth it.
I'm getting the kids to bed and I'm fed up. Even as I start snapping and barking orders, I'm filled with frustration at myself. Just hold on a few more minutes! Why can't I be more patient?
I can't find my phone... I say the wrong thing... I mess up an opportunity. What's wrong with me?! I'm so stupid sometimes!
We're all so self-critical.
EFT doesn't deny all our mistakes, limitations, and issues. We tap: "I feel so stupid, I don't have self-control, I'm so incapable." Sure, as we tap we might start to realize how all of that is not true. But you know what? Even if those issues are truly all there. Even if they're real. We really did say the wrong thing. We really did mess up big time.
But then we reach into our deeper selves.
I can love myself anyway.
I accept myself anyway.
I'm still okay.
Can we incorporate this into our daily lives? Can we recognize that we are human and by definition we make mistakes? Can we have more compassion for ourselves? Not judge ourselves harshly for everything we do wrong?
We didn't create our shortcomings or choose our journey. Hashem did, and no matter what, He still loves us. Yes, we do things wrong. We make mistakes. Maybe we make a lot of mistakes.
And that's okay. I am still worthy of love.
Next time you do something wrong or say something that you wish you hadn't, listen to your internal dialogue berating yourself. You don't have to argue with it. You can agree with every word! You just need to add on after the barrage of criticism -
"...and I can love myself anyway."
Get into the habit of doing this and see how your thought patterns start shifting. How light and love begin to blossom within yourself and your inner world becomes gentler, kinder. Watch your relationships begin to blossom and flourish.
Let's do it!
